Surprise! Love blooms in hard times

If you’re biting your nails and grinding your teeth with election anxiety, step with me out of the madness and into a parallel universe where love comes alive in the specter of death.

I initially intended to interview midlife renewal coach Anasuya Basil about the caregiving journey she’d undertaken to support Gary, her ex-partner, through his ordeal with stage 4 cancer.

I was curious to hear how Anasuya, a multi-talented wise-woman healer, was taking care of herself while tending to Gary’s overwhelming needs.

When Anasuya and Gary’s story took a unanticipated twist, I reached out to her immediately.

What started as an odyssey of caregiving became a profound affirmation of passionate love in the face of impending loss.

In Anasuya’s words, “It's a good way to live.”

This is a story you must hear.

Or watch, if you prefer video:

Here’s a time-stamped summary of what we covered:

• 0:00 Anasuya’s wedding story

• 4:53 We set our intention, and the Universe stepped in

• 7:00 Married in the crossroads of love and death

• 10:30 The moment it shifted into love

• 14:45 The proposal

• 17:39 The wedding

• 19:06 The impact of love on Gary’s health

• 21:41 Anasuya’s instinct to help Gary

• 22:56 Healing versus curing

• 26:52 The caregiver’s high

• 32:27 When the inner well runs dry for midlife women

• 34:40 Marcella’s discovery about working with others as a practitioner

• 36:23 Anasuya’s natural talent for caregiving

• 40:18 Midlife crisis and opportunity

• 43:26 Clearing regrets

• 46:10 Where midlife ends and elderhood begins: Anasuya’s closing reflections

“We got engaged six days before, with no idea we’d be married by now. It was the most miraculous time.”

If you’d like to support Anasuya and Gary's journey, they welcome your prayers and financial support.

You can find Gary's GoFundMe page here. Read more about Gary's story and donate if the spirit moves you. 

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